Your enemy (the devil) wants to use situations of grief and disappointment to stop you from moving forward in the purposes of God, and living the abundant life that Jesus has for you. To deal with grief and disappointment we need to have a biblical perspective about things, because perspective largely determines your experience and the outcome of these situations.

 

We are often temped to feel like nobody knows what we’re going through, no one really understands; but the truth is that many others have gone through the same or even worse, and survived and even thrived.

“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man”
1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV

 

There are no unique temptations or challenging situations, but the devil lures us into the trap of thinking that no one understands. The temptation is to believe that no one understands because no one has gone through what you’re going through. If the enemy can succeed in selling you that lie, then he succeeds in isolating you – which prevents you from receiving help, and takes away your hope. If you believe that you’re alone and no one can help, you will also start pushing people (who could help) away from you. No one is called to be a lone ranger. God wants to minister to you through His body, the church. To truly heal and move beyond grief and disappointment you need your brothers and sisters in Christ. We need to humble ourselves and allow others to comfort us and help us. Self-pity and other destructive emotions which can come as a result of grief can only function in isolation. But when we are exposed to the joy and hope in others the negative effects of grief begin to die. If the enemy can cut you off from others (like a wolf separating a sheep from the flock) then he cuts you off from receiving much needed love and care from others, and it makes you easy prey.

“But encourage each other every day, while you still have something called “today.” Help each other so that none of you will be fooled by sin and become too hard to change.”
Hebrews 3:13 ERV

 

God has some encouragement for you in your situation, and He probably wants to deliver it to you through someone who went through a similar situation. You will never receive that encouragement if you stay in isolation. In difficult times, don’t run and hide, choose to surround yourself with godly people who will encourage you.